if you’re certain that this is what you want to do, then go for it! if you know any girls who are bisexual/lesbian, confide in them about it! i wouldn’t talk to a straight girl about it, as she might not be as open minded. however, if you don’t feel comfy doing this, why don’t you try and make an anonymous tumblr and create a post and tag it with lots of different things to get it noticed? or submit a message into a tumblr porn blog? hope i helped. rosie x

This is sort of confusing to be totally honest. You need to talk to her and ask her exactly how shes feels about you. Say I dont care if its what I want to hear or not, you need to be honest with me about how you feel. When youre confused in a relationship it helps to just throw it all out there so everyone knows how the other one feels.

-eliza

Well maybe its worth it to talk to your ex, it might be better hearing it from the boy though. I dont think setting him up (although it definitely has the potential to work) is the perfect solution. I think its worth it to before you and this boy get together just tell him openly and honestly. I dont think you two should not be in a relationship because hes friends with your ex, and this boy should know that too. If he really likes you then he’ll be with you, and if his best friend is truly his best friend then they’ll work it out too. But you two need to figure out together what steps youre going to take to get his best friend/your ex on board with this, and i think it should involve talking directly to him.

-eliza

You dont need to be sure! You like who you like! If you have feeling for a girl then feel free to experiment, that doesnt mean youre a lesbian, you dont even need to consider yourself bi. If you feel like you need a title then i urge you to just wait a little longer and find a little more clarity before you peg yourself as one thing or another. But just remember youre you! Just do what you feel, let yourself feel what you feel, dont make yourself feel what you feel…. if that makes any sense at all.

-eliza

Maybe just tell him that as a girl you naturally have a lower sex drive. So you like having sex everyday, but anymore than that really just isn’t as pleasurable… When he hints at it just be like “(Name), we had sex three hours (or however long) ago, I’m still satisfied from that so I’m not really in the mood.” if that doesnt worl.. which it sounds like it might not. Maybe just tell him that as a girl youre happy with having sex once a day but anymore is too much for you (if youre a sassy person you can tell him to go please himself) I mean in my personal opinion having sex once a day should be enough, hell once a week should be enough. Buuuuut I can understand guys whos girlfriends totally withhold sex to “make it more special” I mean Im sure it does make it more special but still. I mean if you dont want to have sex then he should respect that.. say “i want to make you happy but i dont want to have sex.” I mean if you guys have sex and he just knows youre not into it, well i dont know that just doesnt sound too appealing. I think with guys you have to spell it out for him. Remind him that you want him to be satisfied, and that you think you do a pretty good job of that already, but he needs to respect that you dont want to have sex that much.

btw excuse my rambling.. id go through and cut shit out but im too lazy

-eliza

I think the best thing you can do is spend a lot of time with him hanging out as friends and flirting, he’ll see how much he likes you. If he has feelings for you and hangs out with you there’s no way he’ll be able to stop himself from wanting to be with you! Dont worry about those other girls. Dont bring them up and ask if he likes them when youre alone, because when its just you two thats your time! You dont want him thinking about other girls when he’s with you! So let it go and know that things will happen as they will. If you have plain and simple easy going fun with him then he’s going to be more drawn to you.

-eliza